It really is quite amazing – what happens to a woman’s body – to my body – during pregnancy.
It is scary as hell being pregnant subsequently after having had severe, early onset Preeclampsia, being horrifically sick (as my current MFM says, “working on dying too”), being hospitalized, and delivering a stillborn baby at 26 weeks, however, once I get around the post traumatic emotional issues related to my first pregnancy and work through any physical alerts of this pregnancy – able to catch my breath and learn about all of the normal things my body is doing in this pregnancy – it is quite remarkable and fascinating!
I’ve said this before and will always feel the same way about it – which is probably why the expression of “congratulations” bugs me when someone gets pregnant and has a baby: The whole thing really and truly is a miracle! There are so many things doctors and scientists still don’t know about pregnancy and to some degree there is really very little anyone can do to ensure a “successful” pregnancy other than following the obvious precautions and general directions.
And while much of pregnancy remains a mystery – there is much we do know about it – and it is quite tremendous. Take a look at this Merck Manual. Incredible. Awesome. Wonderful.
I had what I’m calling a little “blip” during my OB appointment yesterday. My regular MFM says it isn’t even a “blip.” I was scheduled for my first non-stress test. This test shows how baby is tolerating life in my uterus. It is a standard and routine practice for high risk patients like me after 32 weeks. Many women receive NSTs if they have elevated blood pressure or other maternal indicators that could affect the baby.
My doctor is out-of-town, so I saw the usual nurses and regular OB, not my regular OB. He was a lovely OB btw. I felt anxious about the NST. I always feel anxious about tests and checks – wanting the tests and wanting to know how baby is doing – but worried that things could be bad again and fearful of having to go through THAT again. Obviously I was anxious b/c my blood pressure was elevated and stayed elevated during my entire visit. The nurse even rechecked it several times. On top of the pressure, I dipped a trace of protein on my urine sample. These 2 markers, which are new events for me during this pregnancy, combined with the events of my first pregnancy sent everyone into an alert mode, resulting in calls to the chief of of High Risk OB care downtown and very conservative follow-up measures. I received the whole talk about headaches, visual disturbances, not feeling well, etc, etc with instructions to go straight into L&D if I’m not feeling like myself. I’m OK with that – conservative and promptly attentive care. I had my blood drawn, was sent home with 2 jugs for 24-hour urine collection and am following-up with a repeat NST tomorrow downtown.
Baby was “beautiful” oh his NST according to the doctor. He had great heart accelerations with each movement!At least somebody was not stressed!
So…I’m off work on a sick day today. I’d prefer to be at work being “normal.” I considered several different ways to collect my urine at school but all of them seemed a bit ridiculous! Perhaps if I worked at a desk all day and had a more private restroom option it would be feasible. The restroom options are a significantly far distance from my classroom. I need to go frequently. I have these giant jugs to keep cold and store. I need a collection tool. I could just see me walking down the hallway, jug in one hand, pee catcher in the other and a kindergartener asking, “What’s in that bottle Mrs. B?” Yeah. No thanks.
I probably should complete a task or two on my giant home To Do list, but, I donno…maybe I’ll just hang around on the couch, listening to music, practicing guided imagery and relishing in the fascinating and magical wonders of the amazing things that are taking place inside of my body right now!
And getting up every half hour to collect my urine. 😉
Oh, btw…this by far is THE SCARIEST thing I have ever done in my life – getting and being pregnant again after what happened to me before – but it is SO worth it! I wanted to believe it could be better, but was very cautious and apprehensive – always preparing for the worst. Always on the edge of something horrible that surely would happen to me again. After all, not everyone gets a happy ending. But it really is and will be OK for me – for us. 2009 Baby is OK. Still, though, even if I have 20 healthy, living babies – there will always be my first – my little fighter – our family guardian angel – the one who left me too soon – the one my heart aches for – the one who changed my life in more ways than I can describe. So I’ll continue living my life with this paradox of happy, relieved, and grateful that perhaps is always touched with sorrow and longing.
It would be so much more comfortable to live in a world of Either/Or – of course, always Happy being the obvious choice – but life isn’t that way. We live in shades of and in-between places – experiencing a full spectrum of emotions – often at the same time. And it is those shades that make life that much more beautiful and enlivening.